When people lie, it often stems from shame, fear or guilt. Shame comes because we can't, or won't except the truth. Fear occurs when the truth is something we might not want to hear. Guilt happens when we expect that the truth will hurt another.
But the problem is that all words carry energy; lies, especially so. Even if the person being lied to does not know on a conscious level that they are being lied to, they do feel it; and that energy eats away at the foundation of the relationship.
So, step into your truth. Take responsibility for the choices you've made. Act and speak with integrity. Do not focus on the opinions or actions of others. Letting go of dependance on the feelings of others brings you freedom. You will no longer be bound by the fear of loss. You will be free of having to maintain the lie. You release the shame that comes when you know you have not acted properly. You will be liberated from the fear of discovery. You will be free of worry about who knows what information and you will have no potential shame at being "found out". You will no longer have to pile lies on lies to maintain the status quo.
Be equitable with others, but above all with yourself. And be aware how a torrent of suppressed "truths" about another may in reality be unresolved issues you have within yourself. Understand how our "rational" minds can often deceive us. Being honest is about allowing ourselves to feel vulnerable. As with all paradox, this contains great power for transformation because only then are we genuine in our dealings with others; and only then can we change resentment into connection.
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